Maybe you can tell from what I write/how bad I am at regularly making sure I am posting, but I can very easily get caught up in my work and doing what I have to do. However, on this particular weekend I decided to stay in town instead of going home since Asanti just came home.
Hindsight says that I made a good decision, but maybe you’ll read on and then tell me you think I’m wrong. Anyway, here is my weekend recap of being a supportive girlfriend.
A Friday of Choosing My Friends
I woke up when Asanti woke me up to tell me that he was going to get his hair done and made a trip to Target. My little Alexis was going to come over so that we could watch The Bachelor together, and I needed to get some gift wrapping things before she came.
We went to Lotte Market, a place that I often frequent and wanted to show her. Recently, she had been asking me about where I get my Asian groceries and she wanted to know what I regularly buy to keep in my kitchen. There was also a small little food court there, so we picked up lunch and watched The Bachelor (don’t send me spoilers please, I am still behind on the show) after all our shopping.
Asanti was back and napped the whole time because he has no interest in the show (I have to confess that I’m not really into it anymore either). After Alexis left, I went to wake Asanti, because he had volunteered to help set up a friend’s birthday party. I was expecting him to be gone the whole evening, but he ended up coming back before the party even started.
I thought it was strange, but I didn’t pry. I worked on my school work while he played games with his friends on his computer. Then while I was preparing dinner, he confessed that he wasn’t feeling too social because he had found out he had lost a family member while being away for work. Being home had given him time to think and process the feelings of the loss, and so it was hitting him hard that night.
Boy, was I glad that I hadn’t decided to go home that day like I had been considering. Instead, I could stick around, keep an eye on him, and be a listening ear if he needed me.
Sleeping Sunnyside Up on Saturday
We slept well into the day, probably because we stayed up for most of the night. Asanti can sleep the day away, while I can only stay in bed for so long before my hungry belly forces me out of bed. There was a part of me that missed Vietnamese food, so I snuck out to Walmart to buy eggs and some treats for Asanti when he woke up.
I tried my hand at making sunnyside up eggs for the first time, and I wouldn’t call it a complete failure. I think my one mistake was that I didn’t put enough oil on the pan, so then a part of the egg was stuck to the pan and broke before I could transfer it to my plate of rice. Other than that, the food sedated my craving enough to get me through.
After I finished eating, I brought a book to read in bed while Asanti slept. When he woke up, I made him a plate and we just kept each other company for the evening.
A Sunday of Much of the Same
We had stayed up late, which led to another morning of sleeping in. I woke up hungry again, so I heated up the leftover tacos I had made for dinner before reading some more in bed. Asanti woke up, and we went out to get a late Sunday lunch and ice cream to share.
After my food settled, I made time to go to the gym while Asanti went to get groceries to make us dinner. I read until bedtime, and that is how we finished out the weekend.
How do you deal with grief? Is there advice you have for someone looking to support a friend going through loss? What are some supportive things your friends have done that you appreciate them for? I would love to know in the comments below!
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Love Always,
Kristi My
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