How I Got to Today

There’s something extra special about the ordinary moments in life. I can’t quite put my finger on what it is. Perhaps it’s just because I’m a creature of comfort, but I enjoy a day that I can just take a moment to breathe.

Maybe it’s because I have so much to appreciate in my life. Or maybe it’s because my mind is constantly racing with all of the things that I have to do. The most likely thing is probably that I’m just really happy with where I’m at in life.

Like I said in the beginning, there’s something special about what is ordinary, and my happiness isn’t coming from a place where I’ve accomplished the extraordinary. I’m at this place where I am happy to be living with the simple things that I have, and I wanted to talk about that today for National Write Down Your Story Day.

Adversity is a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune.

According to Merriam-Webster

In the face of adversity, I would say that it’s very easy to wish for something else, something better. When you’re faced with a bully, or discrimination, or one of the multitude of situations that contribute to adversity, you become so invested in the situation that you forget the bigger picture. You forget that life isn’t always supposed to be easy, and that you’re not living life if you’re not learning something everyday.

Adversity is the reason that I am here today. In the face of the people who bullied me for being myself, in the face of people who have certain expectations for me because of my nationality, and just living in a world of doubt, I am here and I am fighting for my tomorrow. And I am absolutely happy to.

A question that I often hear is how I manage to stay so positive all the time, especially when things get hard. I want to say that it isn’t always easy, because everyone has hard times. I’ve had my share of mental breakdowns and crying myself to sleep at night. Sometimes, I say the positive things I believe because I need to remind myself of them too.

What I tell myself differs based on the situation, but the one thing that remains constant is that I need to let my feelings play out before I try to kick them out, because then they just go hide somewhere deep inside me. Hiding them in a closet isn’t going to help me in the long term, so I deal by experiencing my emotions in the moment. After that passes, I remind myself of the things that I might need to remember in the moment. For example, if I’m having a crisis about where I am in my career, I will remind myself that everyone’s pacing is different and Jeff Bezos started Amazon out of his garage. This allows me to gain a perspective on where things truly stand.

Another thing that keeps me going is that I like to think that there is a spectrum to life, meaning that there is always worse and there is always better. It’s rare that you’ll reach the point of experiencing the worst thing and the best thing, but the thing to remember when you experience the extremes of the spectrum is to learn from whatever it is. If you’re experiencing the best thing ever, then it’s important to remember that you have the ability to experience and achieve that kind of happiness. In the worst times, it’s important to remember that there is something to be learned and taken away from the situation.

These thoughts are how I got to today, and contribute to why I am the way I am today. This is why I can smile in the face of a challenge, and how I calm myself down during stressful times. Life is too short to worry about everything at once, so take it one problem at a time and then breathe.

Have you experienced adversity? What do you do to cope with hard times? Is there something you’ve overcome that you’re particularly proud of?

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Love Always,

Kristi My