For those of you who follow me on Instagram, you might have noticed that I carved out the time in my busy schedule recently to visit New York. What motivated me to go? I’ve been wanting to attend Her Conference for a while, and I had the money saved to go this year.
Her Conference is a conference that was started and is hosted by Her Campus. Her Campus is a media organization started by three amazing women from Harvard, designed for collegiate women, by collegiate women. Throughout my blog here, I’ve tried to syndicate some of the articles that I’ve written for Her Campus. This quick explanation does not even begin to cover how much this organization has impacted my college experience. Her Campus has led me to pressure my passion while introducing me to some amazing people, so to say that I was hyped about going to Her Conference would be an understatement.
From keynote speakers that are killing it in their respective fields to industry specific panels, I left Her Conference feeling absolutely empowered to set out and accomplish whatever I want. That’s not a feeling that everyone has everyday, so in hopes of sharing this feeling, I thought I would share my favorite highlights.
“Don’t compare your workout to someone’s highlight reel.” –Michelle Carter
Social media makes it seem like everything happens instantaneously, but the reality is that all of it takes work. No one just wakes up with the flawless body. The perfect relationship does not happen the moment people lock eyes. That dream job is not the very first job that person has had.
If you’re the person who did gets anything the second you want it… you’re very lucky. Realistically speaking, I think a lot more goes into that perfect moment captured for Instagram, or that status celebrating an accomplishment.
The body that’s in such good shape probably took countless hours at the gym, maybe even a marathon or two. The seemingly perfect couple probably had to experience several arguments to resolve some differences, or maybe a few therapy sessions before they could get to looking unconditionally in love. Before getting that dream job, that person probably had a million job interviews, half of which probably did not result in a callback.
The point is that so long as you’re working on yourself, you’ll get there eventually. Don’t get discouraged if you’re not there now. The good things in life take hard work and some time.
“You can’t be mad about what you don’t have if you’re not willing to work for it.” –Michelle Carter
It happens all the time: we see someone with a six pack, or someone taking a fabulous vacation, and for a split second we think, “Wow, I wish I had that.”
The thing is… you can have that. You want a six pack? Make the time to go to the gym, and maybe consult with a personal trainer to come up with a plan. A week long trip to Hawaii sound nice to you? Then go out and hustle yourself a nice job and save your vacation days for the time off.
Don’t stay upset when someone has something you don’t. Take a breather, and come up with a plan of how you can have it too. And if you don’t want to work for it, remember that the next time you become upset.
“If you know it’s going to take a hundred no’s before you get a yes, you better go out and get those no’s.” –Jessica Marie Garcia
I’ve been in love with writing since I was in elementary school and the advice that you often hear from other writers is that you should always be writing. That’s because it takes ninety-nine pieces of bad writing to develop a good piece.
The no’s are preparing you for that one yes. You’re perfecting your answer to interview questions, fixing your portfolio, or correcting your resume. Yes, it’s hard getting the rejection, and you might not always want to put in the hard work, but it’s all a part of a necessary evil. If you really want to be ready for that moment, you have to endure it all.
“Know that you’re worth the struggle, because you’re worth your better days.” –Jessica Marie Garcia
We all have those moments where life kicked us down at the knees and the wind got knocked out of us as we fell. In those moments, it feels like it would be easier for us to stay down.
That’s not what we should do though. And in those moments, I know it’s hard to remember the good things, but that’s what we should try so hard to do. Here we are on our worst day, but that day doesn’t hold a candle to our best one. Remember that.
These are highlights that I feel can speak for themselves, and they’re impact might get lost if I tried to expand on them.
- “Your job will never define you. You can only define you.” –Unknown
- “Most people don’t know you’re unsure, so truly fake it until you make it.” –Unknown
- “Surround yourself with people who are strong where you are weak.” –Cara Santana
- “Haters are fans in really terrible wardrobe.” –Cara Santana
- “A crazy person can make a sane person crazy, but a sane person will never make a crazy person sane.” –Cara Santana
- “Don’t shy away from fear, because that’s where the magic is.” –Amber Tamblyn
- “No one is going to care about you as much as you.” –Unknown
- “If the roles you want aren’t written for you, you write them yourself.” –Jessica Marie Garcia
- “Let someone else give up on themselves, you got too much to do.” –Jessica Marie Garcia
Do any of these highlights stand out to you? Is there anyone that inspires you to strive for more in your life? What are some words that motivate you when you aren’t sure what to do with yourself?